I was baptised Catholic when I was a few months old and was brought up in a Catholic family. God has always been a big part of my life, but about a few years ago, I came to know God a lot more. Recently, my sister introduced me to an awesome iphone application called “Bible.Is“. It is a great program that reads you the bible and comes in many languages. I have been listening to parts of the bible every night before I sleep. The other day, I came across these verses:
Sometimes, I find it really hard to not judge others and need the support of my family and friends to guide me on the right path. Recently, I found myself un-Christ-like and irritated at my husband’s friend who was in town for his friend’s wedding and who stayed with us for a week. As our apartment is about 550 square feet (51 square meters) in size, we didn’t have any room for him except for in the lounge. We were very hospitable and asked him to treat the place like home and make himself comfortable. But after a few days, we found that he had eaten a lot of the food in our pantry. He would be out everyday and come home after midnight on most days…usually at around 4am or 5am after having drinks or playing cards with his friends. He spent very little time with us. When he had spare time, he would go shopping and buy a lot of brand products.
On the second day he was here, we asked him to join us for lunch and when it came time to pay, my husband took out his wallet and paid for the bill while his friend was somehow very slow in action and just thanked us instead. Not even a false grab for his wallet. We didn’t think much of it, but on another day, I asked him if he wanted a quick bite for lunch and he agreed. When it came time to pay, he took out his wallet so I offered him my share (US$5) thinking that he wouldn’t take it as it was a small amount and that we had treated him lunch the other day – but he took it!!! Then again last night, we went to a fancy pub and ordered some platters to share – when it came time to pay, he ducked outside the restaurant to make a phone call avoiding the bill.
Although I appreciate that we could ask him for the money back, I feel disappointed that he did not even ask us how much the meals were and offer us his share. He has not taken any initiative to treat us for a meal , or give us a token gift, or at the very least, ask us out for a drink, or lunch or dinner for letting him stay at our place!
Should I be feeling this way? Is it un-Christ-like to give and expect something in return?