I have always been a glass half full kind of person. I’m not sure where I get my optimism and enthusiasm for life. Some realists may say that this way of thinking is not being true to oneself but I beg to differ.
Here are three tips on how to become a glass half full kind of person, which will make you a much happier person generally and a chance to live longer:
#1 Look at the bright side
No matter the situation, think positively. Focus on the positive things. This doesn’t mean ignore the negative things, but if the negative things aren’t that important in the long term, then why let it bother you? Instead, use your energy to improve your situation.
Eg. If you are unemployed, spend your time on preparing a good cover letter and CV, contacting recruiters and potential employers. Try not to ponder too long on why you became unemployed or why you can’t find a job etc. This will only make you feel depressed and your situation worse.
#2 Don’t linger on the negatives excessively
Be careful not to exacerbate a situation. In other words, don’t make a situation worse by your negativity. Remember, you may be giving the situation more attention than it deserves.
Eg. If you have dirtied your clothes (because of your own carelessness or someone else’s), swearing profusely and fretting over it won’t make your clothes spotless again. Be mindful of the company you are in. By exacerbating the situation, you may be making the evening/day memorable for the wrong reasons. This is something that people will remember and will reflect poorly on you.
#3 Ask yourself if you will still be upset at the situation 5-10 years later
A good test to help you determine whether your negativity is justified or not, is to ask yourself whether you would still be upset in 5-10 years’ time. If your answer is no, then don’t waste any more of your precious life over such small things – “don’t sweat the small stuff”! If your answer is yes, then acknowledge that it is a serious problem and focus on how you can improve the situation.
Eg. A car in the next lane cuts in in front of you without indicating and the driver gives you the finger. Be glad that you are not injured and your car is not damaged. There is no need getting too involved with rude people – let it go and move on with the rest of your day.